(Wedding Recap) Details, Details

There are a couple things I need to point out, to validate my/our hard work and document the end results.

For the ceremony, my mom purchased a kit from Michael’s craft stores and then made the layout with her fine Microsoft Office skills.  My dad then helped her print, arrange, and tie the bows. (Thanks Mom & Dad!)  We placed them on chairs for guests, prior to the ceremony.

I found some reserved seating cards on TheKnot.com. (Which reminds me, I need to sell them… anyone want them?)  These were perfect for the ceremony!

The kepot were passed out at the door, thanks to our dear friend, Eric.  We decided to go with a contrasting color to the bridesmaids dresses to change things up a bit.

Post ceremony, the guests were lead to the Board Room where one bar was located, or to the Portico, outside, where there were cabaret (high-top) tables and another bar.  And I have no picture of this. But it existed.

Before entering the cocktail hour area you came across a table with escort cards, decorated with floating candles, similar to some of the table arrangements.  I stupidly printed out all the cards myself, a few days before the wedding (with the help from amazing Lara!).  Turns out, when you do this task after midnight and when your husband is already away on his bachelor party, you will make mistakes… like forgetting a whole table.  whoops!

I found this gift box at Target, days prior to the wedding. I used the same ribbon as I did for my niece’s flower girl basket and the escort card (to differentiate entree choices), for flair.

Each escort card led guests to their assigned table, named after a different zoo animals (a nod to Mike’s proposal!)

At each seat lay menu cards and benchers (Jewish prayer books – which we forgot to use!) flanked each table. Sidenote: I also printed these menu cards out in the wee-hours of the morning.  Not advised.

As mentioned before, I made the cake topper (with that same ribbon).

The bridesmaid’s flowers surrounded the cake table. 

And my bouquet graced our sweetheart table, along with my special clutch from Etsy!

These little elements all came together so nicely!

{all photos by the awesome Studio Juno}

(Weddign Recap) The Ceremony!

Finally the time came to walk down the aisle, exchange vows & rings, and officially become husband & wife!

From my spot out of sight in the balcony, I got a good look at the crowd gathering:

 

The chuppah translates to mean “covering” or “protection” and symbolizes the new home of the married couple.  It represents our desire for our home to be under the protection of God.  The marriage ceremony in Jewish faith cannot take place without a covering and four poles.

I remember standing at the top of the stairs, sneaking a peak and waving at friends who noticed me.  I listened to Wachet Auf lead our bridal party to their positions.  I heard the laughter and “awws,” telling me my niece successfully made her flower girl debut.

I popped my head phones in and half listened to the chorus of Lady Gaga’s Just Dance, to get me amp’d. Truth be told: I needed no help; my nerves turned over themselves, tears welled up in my eyes.  I heard the first chords of Pachelbel’s Canon softly hit the air, just as I learned to play it on the piano around age 10.

Mike began his way to the chuppah with his mom and dad on either side.

When I successfully memorized Pachelbel’s Canon way back when, I knew it would guide me to my groom in the future.  And here I was.
The music filled the air as I saw our wedding planner motion for me to start down the stairs.  Surprisingly, instead of don’t fall don’t fall don’t fall I thought This is it.

 This is it.
My wedding!
Our wedding.

My dad waited for me at the bottom, with the biggest smile on his face.  He whispered to me how gorgeous I looked.  Blinking back tears, beyond my veil I saw so many familiar faces, all in one place, all smiling back at me.  So much love. Amazing.

As I approached Mike, I saw, with out any doubt, the happiest expression to ever grace his face.  I wanted to kiss him right then and there! (I also love his brother’s face in the background)

Then I began the Seven Circles around my groom.  The seven circles represent my bond to him, just as the Teffelin straps are wrapped around a man’s arm.  Also the number seven nods towards the complexity of the creation of the world, just as marriage reenacts the creative process.  Interestingly, some couples share the seven circles, taking turns rotating around each other.  We went traditional and I tried not to get too dizzy and fall down as I went around him seven times. For those of you wondering, the rabbi counted for me.

In Jewish faith there are actually two parts to the marriage ceremony: Kiddushin (Betrothal) and Nisuin (Nuptials). “Both parts are introduced with the benediction over wine, the traditional symbol of joy and abundance. The bride and groom each take a sip of the wine for each.” {taken from The Jewish Wedding Guide}

 

During the Kiddushin we exchanged rings, by placing them on each other’s right index finger.  Apparently, long ago one used their right index finger to make a mark or signature. 

I’m honestly so excited right here.

During the Nissuin the rabbi recited seven blessings over us, love, friendship, and completeness amongst them.  
We shared our own vows here.  And let me tell you, I thought we had this one covered, but…
Well, using a stock “fill in the blank” with sentence starters, we both had the same 8 statements to make.  I added a little bit to mine and so did Mike.  We had our bridesmaid and close friend, Kathryn, read them both to ensure we were on the same wavelength and literal length.  Kat encouraged me to add a little more, but it didn’t feel natural.  
After I read my half page and felt pretty proud of myself.  Then seeing Mike pull out two pages just about made me gasp out loud.  He wrote and read the most heartfelt words.  I give him a lot of strife for not being “mushy.”  Not anymore!
(And so much for trying to be on the same page – I guess you can’t put a limit on love!)

Our rabbi read our ketuba and hand it to me.  I “own” it now. It’s mine, all mine!
Finally, after the second cup of wine, hot veil was lifted off my face.  
The last thing left to do: break the glass!
The breaking of the glass can be a reminder of the fragility of life and also an affirmation that in times of happiness there should be a touch of seriousness.  It signifies that we are still mourning over the destruction of the Holy Temple of Jerusalem.  It also serves as a reminder of the sanctity of marriage.  A broken glass cannot be mended. 
We shouted “Mazel Tov!” (good luck!)

and kissed!

We were married!
Husband & Wife.
beautiful.

{all photos taken by Studio Juno photography}

(Wedding Recap) Kettuba signing & The Bedeken!

First Mike and some buddies (witnesses) signed the kettuba (marriage contract).  From what I understand, since I was not there, shots were taken, high fives were given, and a general boy-good-time was had, amidst the seriousness.

The bedeken, in short, is the veiling ceremony.  There are many reasons behind why this tradition exists, and I enjoy this one the most:  In the Hebrew Bible, Jacob was fooled into marrying Leah who was completely veiled before and during the ceremony, instead of his intended bride Rachel. Jewish grooms today carry out this tradition to symbolically acknowledge that the bride is indeed one’s beloved.

Mike came upstairs to the library (bridal ready room) with the kettuba  & his boys literally cheering him on!

I then signed our kettuba. Even though our contract was signed we were not yet officially bound to each other.  That takes place under the chuppah.

 

Isn’t it beautiful? I’m so in love with our kettuba. Naomi  Broudo of Etsy made it for us.  Side-note: shipping something from Canada can take awhile and even get lost in customs.  Always leave extra time!

 Then our Rabbi said some official stuff & prayers (very technical, I know), and Mike placed my veil over me.

While blessing us, our Rabbi asked family and friends who were there to think of a special moment they shared with the two of us.  We had yet to even begin the marriage ceremony and tears were flowing already!

Mike kissed me one last time.

Everyone else headed downstairs.
I remained at the top of the stairs, ready to walk down the aisle!
Eep!

(Wedding Recap) Exchanging Gifts

After the bridal party shots, we headed back to The Carnegie Institution to cool down, take some family portraits, exchange gifts and sign the ketubah (Jewish marriage contract).

 
 Oh, and kick our heels up, apprently.
The first thing I gave Mike were his cufflinks & personalized handkerchief. In the hotel room where he got ready, I left these gifts on display for him to find.  
The handkerchief reads, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine” in Hebrew.
The cufflinks have our wedding date on the back-side.

 A year before our wedding date, I framed the article about our engagement at the zoo.  I then stored the finished product in my trunk for a long while, then wised up and hid it at a fellow-teacher’s house.  I was beyond excited to give him this gift after having it so long!
I think he liked it (and I do too!!).
(We still need to hang it in our house…)
Mike added on to my Pandora bracelet with a wedding cake charm! It’s so sweet and cute and makes me smile every time I look at it. One of those “aww” moments.
I love it!
But then Mike shared something with me he worked on for over a year.  When he first launched into the explanation, my excitement and shock looked like this:
Then this:

and this too:

because he turned my blog into a book!
But because he wanted to get every last post included, right up to the wedding, he told me we would actually create it together.  And we did. It came in the mail recently and I LOVE it.
Best. gift. ever.
Oh, and this is my favorite wedding picture. ever.
so romantic.
so fabulous.
{all fab photos by Studio Juno}

(Wedding Recap) First Look!

Mike & I knew we wanted to see each other before the wedding ceremony.  The Bedeken, a veiling ceremony part of Jewish tradition, requires the groom to place the veil over the bride (post with pictures forthcoming).  This means you see each other pre-nuptials, anyways.  We took advantage of this and also did our bridal party photos beforehand as well.

But first, we had to see each other.
And the very first time Mike laid eyes on me in my pretty white dress & I saw him in his dapper tux, was a surreal, moving moment.

PS.com: I knew I just had to walk down this staircase the first time I saw it on our tour.  We joked for months about me falling down it, with my four inch heels.  I owned that thing.  No problem.

Almost there…

Still waiting to see me…

Doesn’t the excitement just slay you?

Aerial view

And supreme happiness/excitement/everything!

kiss!
I absolutely love these first look pictures.  This moment is one that never fails to cheer me up when I’m down. I remember it so fondly.  I waited so long for Mike to see my dress, see me in that dress, and everything to come together.  Seeing him all spruced up and in a tux? Amazing.  
and here. we. go!
{photography by the supremely talented Studio Juno}

Wordless Wednesday: Cabbage Rose

{Amazing photography by Studio Juno}

(Wedding Recap) Putting on the Dress

We headed downstairs to the lobby of our hotel, with my wedding dress in hand. I previously arranged (and by arranged, I mean double-triple-checked with the hotel manager) for their Escalade to take us the 3 blocks down the street to our venue. My bridesmaids already wore their dresses and heels. Who wants to hoof-it 3 blocks in the mid-summer’s heat, in fancy dresses? Not us. So you can imagine our surprise when the Escalade disappeared to run another errand, leaving me pointing at the scheduling book where it said “Bride plus 4, 2p.” Luckily they called us a cab. Do you know what 4 girls in bridesmaids dresses looks like in the back of a cab?

 (picture phone quality apology)
Now that’s a bridesmaid’s shot if I’ve ever seen one.
Unfortunately my sister is behind the headrest and got cut off.
The 5 minute ride passed with lots of laughter.

At any rate, we made it to the venue & upstairs to the bridal ready room: the Library.

Special thanks to Lila Frances for their lovely gift of my personalized wedding wire hanger! I simply love it & look forward to passing it down to someone else, someday.

 
 I really love the simplicity & meanwhile complexity of this shot.
It says “Here we go!” to me…

But then, right as I stepped over to my dress, almost ready to go, I thought, “Oh my, I should really use the restroom one. last. time…since we all know how complicated that can get…”
I looked down at myself:
veil, button down shirt, special underwear, garter, heels.
I looked like something out of a pin-up catalog.  Which elicited these reactions from my mom & sister:

 
 Clearly, my sister thinks I’m hilarious.
My mom shakes her head and says “Oh, Vicki.”
Typical. 
I love it.

 Here’s a censored version of what I looked like:
 
 Thank goodness for caterer’s napkins.
Although I will admit I did run down the back hallway of the venue with out said napkin….
But once I came back, it was time.

(suck it in, Vicki)

And in a matter of minutes, I really felt like a bride.
My wedding day finally arrived.
Butterflies tried fluttering in my tummy,
but I overcame that nervous energy with thoughts of seeing my
soon-to-be husband at our first look!

{amazing photography by Studio Juno, phone pic aside}

Venue Stalking

Occasionally I search the internet for update pictures of our wedding venue.  I always check out the venue itself when we drive by, too.   I won’t lie, I wave at it.

At any rate, here are a few recent photos of weddings at the Carnegie Institution!

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Now THOSE photos get me excited!
We’re going to have such a blast!  

Wedding Plans, thus far!

To put things into perspective for myself, and for my new followers who might need some catching up on the plans, here’s what we know so far (with lovely little links to related posts!):

Date: June 19. 2011

Location: The Carnegie Institution

Time: Evening, 5-10:30 (tentative)

Attendants: 4 on each side, with the cutest flower girl ever

Ceremony: Jewish, lead by a Rabbi

Reception entertainment: Time Machine Band (10 piece!)

Color scheme: peacock inspired (deep blues, teal, copper and gold – possibly with purple accents)

My gown: PURCHASED and a SECRET! ha! (still in need of alterations)

We have 11 months to figure out many details, but the latest and greatest on the table are:
-Caterers (we have two lined up for tastings, YUM)
-Bridesmaids dresses (my bestie, Meagan, is coming in town in 3 weeks to shop with us!)
-Photography (a hobby of mine, so I’m super critical about this detail!)
-Honeymoon (thinking Greece? Maybe something on a beach?)
-first dance song (our list is about 8 long, as of now)
-Save the Dates (sending out paper ones)
-finalizing our invitee list

In other news, if any married lady is interested in guest-blogging about their biggest planning ‘snafu’ please email me at:  CrowndVic (at) gmail.com

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We have a date! And a hang up….

Finally, we decided on The Carnegie Institute.
Finally, we put a hold on a date (June 19, 2011!).
(update: Glen Echo let me cancel my hold no problem)

Finally, it was all coming together.
And of course there’s a hitch in the plans.

I contacted the rabbi who we want to officiate and he said he’d get back to me after Memorial Day.  That is two plus weeks away and our hold is only for two weeks (I placed the hold on May 11).  Do we want only him to officiate and thus plan our date around his calendar?  Do we go ahead and book it and hope he can do it?  Do we hope can find someone just as awesome as him if he can’t?

Yes we have other dates in mind, but we have a preferred one.

If only there was an Officiant-Rabbi-Robot with an open calendar!

Weekend O’ Wedding Planning!

My parents were in town for the weekend, not only to see me (and help plan the wedding) but for my third-cousin’s wedding.  Naturally I was not invited because she’s my third cousin and I honestly never met the girl!  However, her reception was held at The City Club – a place which was secretly in contention as our reception site.  No, don’t go looking through my past posts for info on it because you will not find it.  Never before did I mention City Club because Mike and I did not feel it was for us, so I didn’t even go there.  That should say enough about it and it’s fit for us.

Moving on.

On Friday I whisked my parents over to the Carnegie Institute for their own tour of the facility.  (Click on that link for a previous post and my take on the place.)  They instantly fell in love, and how can you not: the grand marble staircase, the beautiful rotunda, the elegant ballroom, the huge french-door entrance, and the staff is largely helpful.  At this point we began entertaining the idea of a June 2011 wedding, since our summers are open.  Also, my parents will celebrate 45 years of marriage on June 18.  What a nice tribute to them to be married on/around that date.  (We also found out the CI takes credit cards, which means bonus points on the visa!)

Saturday we viewed Glen Echo Park.  I put a tentative hold on Memorial Day weekend of 2011, and have yet to receive a contract.  We also had to track down a representative of the park to give us a tour, so Mike and I largely winged-it ourselves.  As much as it pains me to give up on GEP, there are too many variables, which my parents helped me to see:  weather, shuttle buses, distance to bathrooms, drinks in a confined space, location.  However, there is a way around this.  We can still take pictures at GEP prior to the ceremony!  My mom proposed getting transportation for the wedding party and immediate family, pre-nuptials – enjoying the GEP grounds through photographs with ceremony ad celebrating at Carnegie. 
That I can do!

Then we started entertaining April dates, settled on two possibilities, then realized grad-school calendar would not allow for such.  Back to June dates.

I put a request in with the Carnegie Institue for June 19.  I’m not allowing myself to get excited, yet, until I hear the availability.  I hope, hope, hope, though that it is!

Oh, and we enjoyed a lovely Mother’s day together as a family!