When in Rome…

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Imagine this:  you, your mom, and sister plan a trip to Italy (your nation of heritage) for Christmas.  Your sister, who currently teaches English in Thailand will fly and meet you there.  How amazing to spend this special time with the ladies of the fam?  Even more amazing, your long-term boyfriend’s mom plans to meet you there the day after Christmas.

 

Fabulous, right?

On Dec 26 you wake up and get ready to hit up your first full day of sight seeing.  Your sister insists on straightening your hair for cute pictures. And having you change your outfit a little bit.   Having slept on your neck wrong (in a bed that is not your own) you perfect the art of asking every pharmacia for a “pad of heat” to no avail.  If only your mom and sister would stop rushing you along!

What’s so great about the Spanish Steps anyways? You’ll see them again later on a tour…

 

Jet lag plays tricks with your head as you spot a guy wearing your  boyfriend’s scarf, and looking exactly like him, and walking like him, over to you, carrying a bouquet.

 

A wave of surprise hits as he drops to one knee in front of you.

The boyfriend flew, overseas, and proposed! in Italy! and only his mom and your sister knew!

Sounds like a great story, right?

And it’s a wonderful reality for my friends Kathryn & Eric.  Thanks to both of them for letting me share their story and their love! I am thrilled to celebrate the next chapter of their lives with them!!!

(Weddign Recap) The Ceremony!

Finally the time came to walk down the aisle, exchange vows & rings, and officially become husband & wife!

From my spot out of sight in the balcony, I got a good look at the crowd gathering:

 

The chuppah translates to mean “covering” or “protection” and symbolizes the new home of the married couple.  It represents our desire for our home to be under the protection of God.  The marriage ceremony in Jewish faith cannot take place without a covering and four poles.

I remember standing at the top of the stairs, sneaking a peak and waving at friends who noticed me.  I listened to Wachet Auf lead our bridal party to their positions.  I heard the laughter and “awws,” telling me my niece successfully made her flower girl debut.

I popped my head phones in and half listened to the chorus of Lady Gaga’s Just Dance, to get me amp’d. Truth be told: I needed no help; my nerves turned over themselves, tears welled up in my eyes.  I heard the first chords of Pachelbel’s Canon softly hit the air, just as I learned to play it on the piano around age 10.

Mike began his way to the chuppah with his mom and dad on either side.

When I successfully memorized Pachelbel’s Canon way back when, I knew it would guide me to my groom in the future.  And here I was.
The music filled the air as I saw our wedding planner motion for me to start down the stairs.  Surprisingly, instead of don’t fall don’t fall don’t fall I thought This is it.

 This is it.
My wedding!
Our wedding.

My dad waited for me at the bottom, with the biggest smile on his face.  He whispered to me how gorgeous I looked.  Blinking back tears, beyond my veil I saw so many familiar faces, all in one place, all smiling back at me.  So much love. Amazing.

As I approached Mike, I saw, with out any doubt, the happiest expression to ever grace his face.  I wanted to kiss him right then and there! (I also love his brother’s face in the background)

Then I began the Seven Circles around my groom.  The seven circles represent my bond to him, just as the Teffelin straps are wrapped around a man’s arm.  Also the number seven nods towards the complexity of the creation of the world, just as marriage reenacts the creative process.  Interestingly, some couples share the seven circles, taking turns rotating around each other.  We went traditional and I tried not to get too dizzy and fall down as I went around him seven times. For those of you wondering, the rabbi counted for me.

In Jewish faith there are actually two parts to the marriage ceremony: Kiddushin (Betrothal) and Nisuin (Nuptials). “Both parts are introduced with the benediction over wine, the traditional symbol of joy and abundance. The bride and groom each take a sip of the wine for each.” {taken from The Jewish Wedding Guide}

 

During the Kiddushin we exchanged rings, by placing them on each other’s right index finger.  Apparently, long ago one used their right index finger to make a mark or signature. 

I’m honestly so excited right here.

During the Nissuin the rabbi recited seven blessings over us, love, friendship, and completeness amongst them.  
We shared our own vows here.  And let me tell you, I thought we had this one covered, but…
Well, using a stock “fill in the blank” with sentence starters, we both had the same 8 statements to make.  I added a little bit to mine and so did Mike.  We had our bridesmaid and close friend, Kathryn, read them both to ensure we were on the same wavelength and literal length.  Kat encouraged me to add a little more, but it didn’t feel natural.  
After I read my half page and felt pretty proud of myself.  Then seeing Mike pull out two pages just about made me gasp out loud.  He wrote and read the most heartfelt words.  I give him a lot of strife for not being “mushy.”  Not anymore!
(And so much for trying to be on the same page – I guess you can’t put a limit on love!)

Our rabbi read our ketuba and hand it to me.  I “own” it now. It’s mine, all mine!
Finally, after the second cup of wine, hot veil was lifted off my face.  
The last thing left to do: break the glass!
The breaking of the glass can be a reminder of the fragility of life and also an affirmation that in times of happiness there should be a touch of seriousness.  It signifies that we are still mourning over the destruction of the Holy Temple of Jerusalem.  It also serves as a reminder of the sanctity of marriage.  A broken glass cannot be mended. 
We shouted “Mazel Tov!” (good luck!)

and kissed!

We were married!
Husband & Wife.
beautiful.

{all photos taken by Studio Juno photography}

(Wedding Recap) Kettuba signing & The Bedeken!

First Mike and some buddies (witnesses) signed the kettuba (marriage contract).  From what I understand, since I was not there, shots were taken, high fives were given, and a general boy-good-time was had, amidst the seriousness.

The bedeken, in short, is the veiling ceremony.  There are many reasons behind why this tradition exists, and I enjoy this one the most:  In the Hebrew Bible, Jacob was fooled into marrying Leah who was completely veiled before and during the ceremony, instead of his intended bride Rachel. Jewish grooms today carry out this tradition to symbolically acknowledge that the bride is indeed one’s beloved.

Mike came upstairs to the library (bridal ready room) with the kettuba  & his boys literally cheering him on!

I then signed our kettuba. Even though our contract was signed we were not yet officially bound to each other.  That takes place under the chuppah.

 

Isn’t it beautiful? I’m so in love with our kettuba. Naomi  Broudo of Etsy made it for us.  Side-note: shipping something from Canada can take awhile and even get lost in customs.  Always leave extra time!

 Then our Rabbi said some official stuff & prayers (very technical, I know), and Mike placed my veil over me.

While blessing us, our Rabbi asked family and friends who were there to think of a special moment they shared with the two of us.  We had yet to even begin the marriage ceremony and tears were flowing already!

Mike kissed me one last time.

Everyone else headed downstairs.
I remained at the top of the stairs, ready to walk down the aisle!
Eep!

(Wedding Recap) Bridal Party Shots!

Let me start out by saying we had the best attendants.  Our groomsmen & bridesmaids (have you heard them called “bridesbabes” ?!) were fabulous.  Whats more, we couldn’t imagine better people to stand up next to us as we said our vows.
Thankfully, we have these awesome pictures to prove it:

But honestly, THESE are the pictures that really show how much we love them:

Oh, those boys…

The ladies:

Such hams! Love it!

I wouldn’t have it any other way!
(and yes, there is double meaning in the title of this post…hence the great photos)
{said great photos, by Studio Juno}

(Wedding Recap) Putting on the Dress

We headed downstairs to the lobby of our hotel, with my wedding dress in hand. I previously arranged (and by arranged, I mean double-triple-checked with the hotel manager) for their Escalade to take us the 3 blocks down the street to our venue. My bridesmaids already wore their dresses and heels. Who wants to hoof-it 3 blocks in the mid-summer’s heat, in fancy dresses? Not us. So you can imagine our surprise when the Escalade disappeared to run another errand, leaving me pointing at the scheduling book where it said “Bride plus 4, 2p.” Luckily they called us a cab. Do you know what 4 girls in bridesmaids dresses looks like in the back of a cab?

 (picture phone quality apology)
Now that’s a bridesmaid’s shot if I’ve ever seen one.
Unfortunately my sister is behind the headrest and got cut off.
The 5 minute ride passed with lots of laughter.

At any rate, we made it to the venue & upstairs to the bridal ready room: the Library.

Special thanks to Lila Frances for their lovely gift of my personalized wedding wire hanger! I simply love it & look forward to passing it down to someone else, someday.

 
 I really love the simplicity & meanwhile complexity of this shot.
It says “Here we go!” to me…

But then, right as I stepped over to my dress, almost ready to go, I thought, “Oh my, I should really use the restroom one. last. time…since we all know how complicated that can get…”
I looked down at myself:
veil, button down shirt, special underwear, garter, heels.
I looked like something out of a pin-up catalog.  Which elicited these reactions from my mom & sister:

 
 Clearly, my sister thinks I’m hilarious.
My mom shakes her head and says “Oh, Vicki.”
Typical. 
I love it.

 Here’s a censored version of what I looked like:
 
 Thank goodness for caterer’s napkins.
Although I will admit I did run down the back hallway of the venue with out said napkin….
But once I came back, it was time.

(suck it in, Vicki)

And in a matter of minutes, I really felt like a bride.
My wedding day finally arrived.
Butterflies tried fluttering in my tummy,
but I overcame that nervous energy with thoughts of seeing my
soon-to-be husband at our first look!

{amazing photography by Studio Juno, phone pic aside}

(Wedding Recap) Getting the Guys Ready

While us girls were busy primping over in the honeymoon suite, some of the gentlemen met up in a junior suite to don their tuxedo’s and whatever else it is that men do to get ready.  (Really, shower? put on some cologne? they have it so easy.)

Then groomsmen all wore Sean Jean ties I bought during the 2010 winter holiday sale at Macy’s.  I purchased them for a mere 70% off full price.  Win.
Mike wore spectators (aka wing-tips) for an added special touch.
I call this his “shitting himself” face.
But it’s a great shot, non-the-less.
Brothers.  I love it.
There really is something special about bro-mance.

I’ll never get it, but it really is special.

{Again, these spectacular images were all captured by Studio Juno}

(Wedding Recap) Getting the Girls Ready

My bridesmaids are wonderful women.  I promise these words come from an honest place deep down inside me.  Mostly they deserve such complements because they put up with me for a year-and-a-half of wedding planning and then my sharp orders on the day-of the event.  I tried my utmost best to not turn all bridezilla.  But let me tell you, if you’ve never gone through it before, there’s no preparing for the rush of emotions.  I swear any woman who gets away without even a hint of bridezilla must be hiding something.  or holding it in.

Of track.

My bridesmaids deserve a medal.

or a gift.
On the day of the wedding I gifted them each a different Coach clutch.
Thanks to the a shopping-angel’s coupon delivery, I purchased these babies for a *very* competitive price.
Always be on the lookout for a good deal, even 6 months before the wedding!
And so the readies began.
Curlers and button downs (no hair mess-ups!) and patience, oh my!
Meagan makes being athletic & beautiful look easy.

Tell me Kathryn’s beauty doesn’t astound you?
One day (soon) she’ll make a beautiful bride.
She’ll also kill me for typing/publishing this.
(But Kat, it’s not like Eric reads my blog!!!!)
 My sister rocks the mom-card, and the big-sister card, and the cool card.
She makes me feel better about one day “going there” as a parent (being all pretty and in control even though she might not really know what she’s doing… but you’d never know that.)
Diana wins for most favors-cashed-in.
You know that friend you can always turn to when you need something? trip to the ER? ride home from Target when you just bought a bicycle and it’s now snowing? advice and just a general ear?
Yeah, Di’s got my back.  I hope she knows I’ve got hers, too!
They were all there, and then some, for me on my wedding day!
Love. These. Ladies.
{All beautiful photographs by Studio Juno}

Girls in White Dresses…

…but no pink satin sashes.  I don’t do pink.

Very soon, this precious little one:

Will be wearing this precious dress:

And this adorable, fun, “big kid”:

Will be wearing this special dress:

(minus the removable tattoo on her arm)
And for a better picture of little miss, you MUST check out her new favorite dress-up activity:
How fantastically cute!!!
Love my nieces! Can’t wait to see them all dolled up for the wedding!

Bachelorette Party, AC!

Round 2 of bachelorette party fun ensued this past weekend in Atlantic City. (Don’t forget to check out the DC shenanigans, too!)

Pictured above: one of my highschool besties, Veronica, along with my bridesmaids Meagan and Kathryn, all piled in the car.

Bridesmaid Diana drove while I navigated (excuse my quadruple chin.  Self photos are hard!)
Finally, we ended up here!
and stayed here!
We did some of this (and took Trump’s stinkin’ money),
and some of this.
And lastly some of this.
I had a the TIME of my life.  So many new memories & one-liners were created.  To keep things clean, I’ll leave it at this:
WOO-HOO!!!!!!!!
Thanks to my lovely ladies for a fabulous time!
Reunion next year?!
(ask me how you can save 10%)

My Bridal Shower!

This past weekend, my future Mother-in-Law, Ida, with help from my parents and bridesmaid Kathryn, threw me a lovely shower!  It took place at a restaurant called Carmines – but I think I will affectionately call it “that Italian restaurant with food and portions to die for!”

My mom, dad, sister, and 8 month old niece, Madelyne, flew in on Friday.  Ida flew in on Saturday.  It was a family packed weekend full of fun!

Ida, myself, and Kathryn 
My lovely Shower hosts!
Confetti and Favors (personalized lip balm! LOVE it!)
My mom and I  (love her)
My cousins and Aunt came! 
(my mom’s sister)
The dessert presentation was awesome
(and yes, I took the leftovers home)
Ida gave a heartwarming speech
I make funny faces when opening presents!
My mom, sister, and I showing how big the pan is she bought me.
(we’re obviously related)
((I heart this picture, lots))
Kathryn made my rehearsal bouquet out of bows!
Sarah shared comments I said as unwrapping gifts as potential things I will say on my wedding night!
(“Where’s the hole” –b/c I couldn’t unwrap a gift… etc)
It was HILARIOUS!
My bridesmaids and I!
(My sister, Marlo, Kathryn, me, and Diana)
((Meagan couldn’t make it, understandably))
I had such a lovely time!!!

Menswear

Before Christmas, Macy’s ran a kick-arse sale.  Not only were items discounted, but then my Macy’s card earned me an additional 25% off.  That is how I shop!

I  noticed their designer ties were part of this lovely discount.
And in that selection I found some handsome, purple paisley ties.
My brain started turning as I thought about our groomsmen.

The ties were originally $69.
They were now 40% off.
Then I get my additional 25% off.
AND on top of that because I was a part of their Share program, I get 10% back during the holidays.

For more than half the price we purchased these ties, with pocket squares, for our groomsmen!

Let’s just hope the color matches up to the bridesmaids dresses!

(They will also be receiving a personalized gift)
What do you think?

Pretty Pearls

When my friend and bridesmaid, Kathryn, visited China recently I asked her pick up four pearl necklaces.  Since China is known for its pearls, she purchased these necklaces for $20 total. Wowsers, eh?
I knew I wanted her to buy these to then gift to my bridesmaids (even though she is one of them).

Then it came time to think about my necklace.  With the shape of my dress (nuh uh! not telling!) I knew my necklace needed to be simple but with… oh nevermind. It’s too hard to explain.
However I found a wonderful pearl necklace on Etsy (duh, of course) that really spoke to me.  The seller is from China and ships for free (amazing!).  She also has great reviews (600 positive) so I figured why not take a chance.  If this necklace doesn’t work out with my dress, I’ll wear it on any other fancy day!

Here’s a lovely picture of my necklace:

I’m excited. Hopefully it will arrive before my next dress fitting!
Are you a fan of pearls?
What else can I gift my bmaids?!