Next up is one of the very first blogs I started reading on a regular basis. Jayme of The Tater Twins shares amazing posts about strength, love, and her adorable kids & family. You can also find her on the Twitter: @Tatertwins.
While Victoria & Mike are off doing the wedding and honeymoon thing, I get to guest post! My name is Jayme, and I have been married to my husband Aaron for over 10 years now, and although we didn’t have a wedding or a honeymoon, I thought perhaps I could offer some advice anyway. Feel free to take it with a grain of salt!
Wedding Advice:
Invite people. We went to the justice of the peace, and it was a spur of the moment decision. Our friends were upset we didn’t include them. Our family was annoyed we didn’t tell them we were getting married until a month after the deed was done. So I think letting people know is a good idea.
Take pictures. Even if you don’t hire a professional photographer, have SOMEONE take a picture or two of you and your spouse on your wedding day. We have no photos of that day, and it’s one thing I really regret.
Buy rings BEFORE the ceremony. As I’ve mentioned, our wedding was impromptu, and we didn’t even think about rings until the part where the justice of the peace asked us to exchange them.
Honeymoon Advice:
Take one. Even if it’s just camping or something equally inexpensive. We didn’t take one, and have yet to have the opportunity to go on a vacation without the kids. So take one while you can.
General Marriage Advice:
Accept the things you can’t change. We don’t fight. I think some number of disagreements and that kind of back and forth bantering is ok, healthy even- if you work it out and don’t let it get bottled up and fester- but no matter how much I argue with him, he doesn’t argue back. He just doesn’t respond to that. It took me a LONG time to learn that. But that’s just him.
Your spouse is your BFF. Aaron is truly my best friend. I can tell him anything. I can be myself around him. I am not the slightest bit self conscious in front of him in any way. And I think that is the way it should be.
Be there for each other. During our first year of marriage, our first baby was stillborn. The grief counselor told us something like around 75% of marriages that lose a child end in divorce within a year. For us though, we clung to each other in our grief. It brought us closer together. I don’t know that I could have gone on without him. He’s my rock.
Keep things in perspective. After our baby died, when things got stressful between us, one of us would usually say something like ‘We lost a baby, this is nothing’ and the tension we were having about money or whatever would seem so trivial. It helped us remember what was really important.
Even though we’ve been married over a decade now, I still get butterflies when I’m thinking about him or talking about him with others. He tolerates my love for the internet, my horrible spending habits, my lack of housekeeping skills. What more could a girl want?
Victoria and Mike- I have loved watching the behind the scenes wedding planning, as I never went through that. I hope your day is absoutely gorgeous, and all the details fall into place. I know you two are well on your way too an eternity of happiness!
~Jayme
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Living in our nation's capital allows me to learn something new every day. So does teaching 2nd graders. My nose piercing and tattoos keep me from normalcy, while my job and religion keep me grounded.
